adbforwarder wont connect to alvr

[imaradio]

both programs are on, logs dont seem to show anything on either end, alvr just will only connect via wifi for some reason
linux mint 22, quest 2

adbforwarder console output:

Platform: Linux
Adb server started.
If your device doesn't show up after connecting the device, please make sure dev mode is enabled on headset and cable or usb port is not damaged.
Connected device: 1WMHH821520462
Successfully forwarded device: 1WMHH821520462 [hollywood]

ALVR log:

23:06:57.062 [INFO] Guessed window scale factor: 1
 [SESSION] Updated
23:07:36.375 [INFO] GPU supports H264 profile.
23:07:36.375 [INFO] GPU supports HEVC profile.
23:07:40.308 [INFO] Server connected
23:07:53.344 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 87040B, recv: 131072B
23:07:56.159 [ERROR] Handshake error for 2314.client: Try again
23:07:57.248 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 87040B, recv: 131072B
23:07:58.151 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 212992B, recv: 212992B
23:07:58.152 [INFO] Set socket send buffer succeeded: 425984
23:07:58.152 [INFO] Set socket recv buffer succeeded: 425984
23:07:58.153 [INFO] Render Target: 4288 2336
23:07:58.153 [INFO] Refresh Rate: 72
23:07:58.154 [INFO] CEncoder::Run
23:07:58.154 [INFO] CEncoder Listening
23:07:58.194 [INFO] CEncoder client connected, pid 140683, cmdline ~/.steam/debian-installation/steamapps/common/SteamVR/bin/linux64/vrcompositor
23:07:58.244 [INFO] Using Vulkan device NVIDIA GeForce GTX 1060 6GB
23:07:58.259 [INFO] Received new playspace with size: [1.9265482, 2.0328069]
23:07:58.281 [INFO] Using device path /dev/dri/renderD128
23:07:58.284 [INFO] FrameRender: Input size 4288x2336
23:07:58.285 [INFO] FrameRender: Output size 2560x1216
23:07:58.357 [INFO] Using NvEnc encoder
23:08:07.351 [INFO] Client disconnected. Timeout
23:08:42.543 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 87040B, recv: 131072B
23:08:43.207 [ERROR] Handshake error for 2314.client: Resource temporarily unavailable (os error 11)
23:08:44.581 [ERROR] Could not initiate connection for 2314.client: connection timed out
23:08:47.354 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 87040B, recv: 131072B
23:08:47.450 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 212992B, recv: 212992B
23:08:47.450 [INFO] Set socket send buffer succeeded: 425984
23:08:47.450 [INFO] Set socket recv buffer succeeded: 425984
23:08:47.451 [INFO] Render Target: 4288 2336
23:08:47.451 [INFO] Refresh Rate: 72
23:08:47.744 [INFO] Received new playspace with size: [1.9265482, 2.0328069]
23:08:50.687 [INFO] Client disconnected. Timeout
23:08:58.357 [ERROR] Could not initiate connection for 2314.client: connection timed out
23:09:03.360 [ERROR] Could not initiate connection for 2314.client: connection timed out
23:09:14.363 [ERROR] Could not initiate connection for 2314.client: connection timed out
23:09:19.363 [ERROR] Could not initiate connection for 2314.client: connection timed out
23:09:22.364 [ERROR] Could not initiate connection for 2314.client: connection timed out
23:09:25.364 [ERROR] Could not initiate connection for 2314.client: connection timed out
23:09:58.998 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 87040B, recv: 131072B
23:09:59.247 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 212992B, recv: 212992B
23:09:59.247 [INFO] Set socket send buffer succeeded: 425984
23:09:59.247 [INFO] Set socket recv buffer succeeded: 425984
23:09:59.248 [INFO] Render Target: 4288 2336
23:09:59.248 [INFO] Refresh Rate: 72
23:09:59.370 [INFO] Client disconnected. Cause: Connection refused (os error 111)
23:10:00.017 [ERROR] Could not initiate connection for 2314.client: Connection refused (os error 111)
23:10:01.045 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 87040B, recv: 131072B
23:10:01.116 [INFO] Initial socket buffer size: send: 212992B, recv: 212992B
23:10:01.116 [INFO] Set socket send buffer succeeded: 425984
23:10:01.116 [INFO] Set socket recv buffer succeeded: 425984
23:10:01.118 [INFO] Render Target: 4288 2336
23:10:01.118 [INFO] Refresh Rate: 72
23:10:01.239 [INFO] Received new playspace with size: [1.9265482, 2.0328074]