Reconfiguration state should respect updateSelector

[l0kix2]

[requires repro]
It seems that currently ytop in the Reconfiguration state of ytsaurus resource can re-create some pods if they require update, but the update is prevented by updateSelector. It is expected that Reconfiguration state shouldn't re-create any pods.

UPD. it seems that Reconfiguration doesn't remove pods (by scaling sts to zero) as expected. But Reconfiguration can update the sts resource which can lead to the pods recreation and unexpected downtime.

The question is do we want the ytop to recreate some things without option to prevent that or we want some thing like updateSelector to control such reconfiguration as in the ClusterUpdate case